I wanted to use this blog post to talk about attitudes. I teach kids dance – you can only image the sass that walks through the studio doors on a daily basis. It’s not just the kids – it’s their parents, siblings, and heck, even me. I’ve been teaching professionally for almost 5 years. While that does not seem too long, it’s been long enough for me to see what works best when interacting with people. These are tokens that I’ve applied beyond my role as a dance teacher and I think it has given me more patience with people.
1. Humans are selfish. Human nature makes us do things to protect ourselves. We protect our character, our hearts, and our pride. Protecting those things sometimes means saying or doing hurtful things to others. That’s not okay. We have to put our own selfishness aside and realize that we are all precious. We’re all on the same team. We often get frustrated with people because they aren’t aware of our personal moral rules. Let me put it this way, let’s say you really wanted Chinese food for lunch. You’ve planned your whole day around Chinese food only to find out your favorite Chinese restaurant is closed today. Now you’re in a bad mood. You get back to work and your coworker Sally looks at you in a way that makes you upset and you give her the biggest “tude” because you think she purposefully wanted to make your day worse. How was Sally supposed to know about your Chinese food catastrophe? Why does everything have to be an eye for an eye? We have to get this idea out of our heads that the only way to treat others is with reciprocity. We’re all in life together. If we believe that God’s love is for everyone, shouldn’t we share that grace and love with everyone? There’s never a good reason to treat anyone poorly. Never.
2. I’m never right. I’ve learned that little idea the hard way. I’ve fought so many unnecessary battles because I wanted to be right – I had to be right. It has made my life more peaceful to just forfeit battles. If allowing someone to feel powerful from being “right” is what it takes for there to be peace in my life, so be it. There really isn’t a need to stir the pot and pick silly arguments to feel validated by being correct.
3. Children crave kindness and love. So many times we coin the term “problem child” on kids who act out. Kids rarely have problems. They are actual angels when you think about it. They tell you the truth, hang on every word you say, say really funny things, and color silly pictures. It’s easy to lose patience as an adult when you stop thinking like a child. I tell myself so many times to be the teacher I needed when I was younger. If that means telling a kid good job when they mess up a step, or hugging a kid 15 times in class because they ask for them. I think of how I would want a person to treat my kid. I would hope they show them grace, patience, and pour every ounce of love into them. Were all KIDS. We all crave these things.
4. Treat everyone like it’s their birthday. It’s that simple. Everyone should be loved and celebrated every single day. Saying mean things to prove a point sticks with people. I think back to being a student and I remember teachers that were big on humiliation. They loved pointing out flaws and telling students they were wrong. I’m not sure if it was a power thing, or just a rude thing, but I digress. I don’t remember a single good thing about being in their classes. The negative completely outweighs the bad. Then, I remember the teachers that were happy. Even when things weren’t going too well, they treated me and my classmates like humans. I remember lesson from their classes – I ACTUALLY LEARNED THINGS FROM THEIR KINDNESS. The Lord tells us we should love our neighbor, friend, co worker, enemy, student, dog – as ourself. Cling to that and act on it.
While these are just a few of the many things I’ve learned from being around kids 25/8 I know that there will be so many more things I learn over the years. I just wanted to share a few of the things that were on my heart.
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